Fake a smile, no one will notice. Fake your confidence, guys like confident women. Fake a laugh, you’re prettier when you look happy. Fake your intellect, pretty girls should keep their mouths shut. Fake an orgasm, being truly satisfied isn’t dignified. Fake a life to fit in with society. Fake it ’til you make it and it breaks you. No one is perfect but the world expects you to be the exception.
From a young age I remember being taught to just fake my confidence. They said eventually I’d start to believe my own bullshit and actually love myself. Eventually. What if that day never comes and I’m just stuck in this lie that I’ve built up around myself? I’ve trapped myself here but the slightest breeze would make it all crumble away, back to square one. Pretending to be something you’re not is so dangerous. How can you ignore your authentic self? Sometimes pretending to be confident or happy is ok in order to heal in your own time but to be constantly met with this mirage of having to have a perfect lifestyle is numbing. I feel sad when I see these profiles of people I know and how staged it all is. Their real personalities are nothing like their profiles. We present ourselves to people in a way that we think they will like and we lose ourselves in the process. We forget that the one person that really matters is ourselves. Our self love and healing is the most important because without that we would all be so broken. We should be brought up to see ourselves in a positive light, we shouldn’t be taught to pretend. We’re told that confidence is arrogant and that only narcissistic people love themselves. People constantly preach about self love and self empowerment but when it comes to seeing them do as we tell them we judge them and try to bring them back down.
We’ve got so caught up in our own insecurities and how others perceive us that we forget to actually look. To truly see ourselves. I find myself looking in the mirror and picking out flaws, I can’t just glance and be happy. No, that would be too easy. Our minds have this funny way of treating us like we’re not good enough and society backs it up. We’re all to blame for how our society is constructed. We really need to work on ourselves, to truly believe in what we are and what kind of person we want to be in the world. Faking it won’t cut it. If you don’t have faith in your own journey and successes then how do you expect anyone else to? Learn that you need to fully believe in yourself, you are the one that can take you places that no one else could dream of. True happiness and love of life doesn’t come from pretending it is, there will always be this void between what you know is real and what you build up inside your head. Find things and people that truly make you happy and feel blessed to be alive, that is where true happiness lies. Find it.